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Look For A Shiny Pot Where The Ring Should Be

11 Jun

“I love a man who clears my table
I love a man who knows how to use
a wire scouring brush on my pots
till they sparkle so
He brings out my shine…”

Mohja Kahf

I held his hand and gave it a soft, soothing massage. Those hands may have been tired from working all day…and then, his ring wasn’t there. I started to freak out, threw his hand away and broke that sweet moment into some commotion. He said he left it in the car.

Soap residues are deposited into the crevices of the band’s design, thus he took it off. Some kinda excuse. Instances like this make me feel that he is not ready for the kind of security that love gives.

Is he ever ready?

Is he ever ready?

Crocodiles began to breed in my mind. I wanted to stalk him and see what he’s up to. Every woman within a three-meter radius became a possible threat. If I continue to think about the endless reasons why the ring that I placed there for my own feeling of security is not there, I would be stuck. Perhaps its not about my security, its about his. Is he ready for the security that the ring entails?

Men are as complex as the universe. They are not perfect, and never will be. With this fact we are at an equal stance. They ruin a lot of romantic moments due to their restlessness and cause more broken hearts than they ever mean to. Yet, their readiness for love is not as recognizable as that of a woman’s. Its more of silence, washing dishes, and a lot of discoveries. Becoming a man who is ready for love takes a lot of introspection and the gradual emergence of consciousness for what the other feels. It is their personal battle.

A man’s readiness to secure love can hardly be seen and can be misconstrued with the act of not wearing his ring. As a ‘sage’ advised, I should rage not, instead dwell on real loving gestures because not all men can make a pot shine for me. If he has shown you this, be confident that the ring will find a way back some hours after.


Women Are Crazy! (Says Who?)

7 Jun

He knows exactly when I’m mad. Yet, he ignores me and this  makes me even madder. Out of this madness I feel unloved, and with this…sometimes I cry.

crazyAnd what’s on his mind? WOMEN ARE CRAZY!!! Tsk, tsk.

Here’s an excerpt from a funny write-up that made my afternoon. A silly and sweet description of the truth on every woman’s madness, written with all the love for his own  madwoman on a Valentine’s Day:

Women pick arguments on purpose. The only time men pick arguments on purpose is if we do not like someone, we are drunk, there is a Raider’s fan in the room, or we decide to act macho in front of our woman. Men do not often argue just to argue, do you know why ladies? We are lazy and it is hard to watch Sportscenter AND drink a beer while you argue. Ok, so why is women arguing so crazy? Because of the reason they do it, women argue and pick fights with men “to test their relationship.” That is the whole “if the rubber band breaks” concept that women are working on. They obviously haven’t heard of the “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it” concept that men love.

Women ask questions that they know the answers to. Guys, they still expect an answer. And God help you if the answer is not politically and socially correct. You may want to bring a cue card with a few facts and pointers to back up your answer, though those facts will help very little if your answer is different from hers. These actions by women can also be tests; you know those random pop quizzes we hated in school, well now we get them in marriage and long term relationships. Your girlfriend or wife has just become the teacher from hell.

Women really don’t care about your opinion most the time. You know “they” say that a good conversation is good dialogue between the two participants. Whoever “they” were, “they” were obviously not talking to a woman. A woman does not want your input on a topic she has already decided upon. You are allowed a couple head nods, a few confirmation noises (to let her know you are still listening), and a really big “you are absolutely right honey” near the end. That is all that is required, or better yet necessary, to successfully navigate through a conversation with a woman. One last thing, if you even dare to talk about a subject she knows nothing about just give up, women quickly grow bored with topics that don’t interest them. Notice the way she “sighs” and glances around the room every five minutes, those are your hints.

Give up trying to keep up with your wife or girlfriend’s social drama, whether at work or with her friends. Never side with Becky, her hated arch-rival, unless Becky is going to let you sleep on her couch. Do not dare and sympathize with Helga, her dictator of a boss, or your soup might taste a bit off tonight. If your wife is on Facebook just be prepared for monthly breakdowns and breakups. I think women came up with the term “BFF” so they could have one more thing to break up with in this world. Women are crazy.

Read the full write-up here and follow HarsH ReaLiTy.

In Bittersweet Times Of Currency

6 Jun

During that financial hardship, our attentions and efforts turned inward to good family times that didn’t require currency. We went on walks together. We found parks in our area we had never visited before. We had picnics in the living room for lunch rather than going out to eat. These were our tangerine times: a bit sweeter and more nourishing.

Holding Hands

Trying times.

When you are single, you have less obligations to consider. When you are a couple, you have all the obligations to consider because his obligations become yours.

Receiving gifts of financial scarcity or trouble from the world comes as the most trying times, but how do we get ‘US‘ through?

From the actions of our children and the lessons of everyday, we realize that these bittersweet times are worth looking back to, for these are the times when we held each other the most.

Here’s a write-up of a parenting experience which reflected back to the best moments of couplehood: http://theologee.wordpress.com/2013/05/28/comparing-oranges-to-cookies/

Experience and learn love anew…everyday.

Bru’s First Love Letter: He Is Leaving His Family

5 Jun
Relax with a cup of coffee.

Forgive yourself.

Dear Amor Bruja,

I’m Gab and I am currently caught in a situation where I am not supposed to be. There’s a man I have learned to love for his kindness on me. For the past two years, he’s been my closest friend and now, he is leaving his family – his 10-year partner (they were never married) to be with me. I didn’t ask for it, but he said that he’s long been wanting to get out…even before I came into his life. It’s not about whether its right or wrong, but instead of feeling happy that he’s finally going to be with me, I feel devastated. Guilt eats me up. 



Dear Gab,

You are in a situation where love has brought you to be. Learning to love the person for his kindness is something that comes naturally. When you came into his life, his partnership with the mother of his kids was not giving him the happiness he thinks he deserves – and this may also be the reason why he chose to be kind to you.

Now, he has finally made up his mind to leave. Though there is no reason to celebrate, there is also no reason for you to be so hard on yourself, either. He just needs to make sure that his kids will have the support that they need from him, and this you need to accept and back-up with him wholeheartedly. Its true that it is going to be hard, but it won’t be for long. Everyone deserves their share of happiness.

Right here,


falling awake



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